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How to Handle a Bully: Reframing

SCIENCE OF SUCCESS

REFRAMING: HOW TO HANDLE A BULLY

INTRODUCTION

HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH A BULLY?

Jayce: “I felt angry because I’m not I’m, really a great trash talker, so I try to trash them back within they just trash-talk me even more and then I just suck at trash talking back so then I get angry. . .”

James: “right, and so, instead of that feeling, I didn’t want you to ask, but I don’t really encourage trash talk all that much either. That’s not really my way of dealing with stuff. So we came up with another technique. And what did you say? What did you imagine?”

Jayce: “I Imagined that to get to either walk away or ignore them or you’re better,”

James: “so your better self, and what was that?”

Jayce: “I imagined that I was a 10 ft tall super hero and the bully was a one foot tall super villain.”

James: “So, You imagine yourself as a 10 ft tall superhero and you imagine, the boy has a 1-foot all super villain and you just smashed it and whatever you did that, how that make you feel amazing, so happy did it make you feel like confident that you would be able to handle your situation better in the future?  Awesome.”

Recently, Minime sat down with me to help educate others on a very simple MINDSHIFT STRATEGY™ but HIGHLY Effective for helping people Gain control over their own emotions and FEEL more in control of their circumstances.

This Shift in mindset and mentality known as REFRAMING will set you in the right frame of mind to handle your obstacles from a positive and constructive assertion and will bring more successful models and patterns to your mind in order to have better outcomes.

Use this and all my secrets to empower you to

BE YOUR OWN HERO!

Minime was having some issues with a few bullies & brought it to my attention. You have to have an “open door policy” with your children and then you have to be prepared to have an open discussion where you debate the possible solutions; allow your child to participate in the solution.

REFRAMING

What is Reframing and how can it help you to Be Your Own Hero & get more power over a bully? Well, have you ever wished You could change something about how you felt about a situation or circumstance? Stop and think about it a bit before you decide. Imagine, stepping into a time machine and going back to talk to yourself and fix a mistake, or to have the ability to see your current situation through the eyes of Einstein, what if you could literally step into the mind of someone who has never had much to eat and has spent their life never having seen a blanket or iPhone? Would You still see your problems as all-encompassing?

If you have ever sat in a puddle of regret, anxiety, or self doubt and are looking for a solution or secret to help make life easier, this article is for you. This article is designed to empower those who are self-help seekers or personal development enthusiasts to take control of your Life & Be Your Own Hero.

ARCHETYPES

ar·che·type
/ˈärkəˌtīp/
noun
plural noun: archetypes
  1. a very typical example of a certain person or thing.
    “the book is a perfect archetype of the genre”
    • an original that has been imitated.
      “the archetype of faith is Abraham”
      a recurrent symbol or motif in literature, art, or mythology.
      “mythological archetypes of good and evil”

Think about a situation that didn’t go well, one where the results were very hard for you to swallow. As you consider how this happened to you, imagine what someone else might see as an onlooker.

Firstly, what if you were

  • Superman,
  • Wonder-woman, or
  • Ironman?

Think about Your situation from the perspective of a Super Hero. As you watch the situation play out in the mind of yourself as a Superhero, does it change the way you feel about that Past scenario? Imagine yourself as taller and stronger than the person or situation that was making you feel small or insignificant. Literally imagine yourself being larger than life, stronger than Arnold, & wiser than Plato.

Now, clear that thought, and consider your situation from the perspective of a Genius; it doesn’t matter if it is Einstein or a fictional scientist like Doc Brown or even a philosopher like Socrates or Aristotle, but make sure you imagine a mind that is incapable of being emotionally connected to this situation and can only see it rationally and objectively as if it were happening to characters in a Shakespeare play or a fictional story that lessons can be learned from with data and records which will help us make better decisions in the future.

ASSOCIATION & DISSOCIATION

Association is the way we associate with our thoughts. As you read through the exercise above, you should have intentionally engaged with the specific images and characters I provided for you or some similar imagery which forces us to change the way we see our Past.

Realize now, that your past did not happen exactly as you remember, and could be seen as entirely different through the eyes of another. Therefore, it makes no sense to worry about the Past and you can now choose to see it however you want because the truth is that it did not happen exactly the way you remember and it is ok to let go of the painful parts and keep the parts that teach us and protect us for later

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JAMES PESCH WELCOMES YOU BACK!

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VIDEO TUTORIAL w Transcript Below thanks to WWW.ENDQUOTE.NET

TRANSCRIPT

James & Jayce: HEY!

James: you want to say hi?

Jayce: Hi!

James: This is Minime aka Jayce, and he goes by the gamer tag jaycerpeschwin. So if you have any kids that are gamers and want and they play minecraft or roblox or what other games can you play steam games?

Jayce: if you like fortnite,

James: okay fortnite, so there’s another one, and if you look closely he is, he is an amazing. He is very bright and just like all kids from time to time, he’s going to have to struggle with bullying and different things like that, and so he was having a littlei miss you and didn’t. Can you explain to everybody kind of how that made? You feel? How are you feeling

Jayce: I felt angry because I’m not I’m, really a great trash talker, so I try to trash them back within they just trash-talk me even more and then I just suck at trash talking back so then I get angry

James: right, and so, instead of that feeling, I didn’t want you to ask, but I don’t really encourage trash talk all that much either. That’s not really my way of dealing with stuff. So we came up with another technique. And what did you say? What did you imagine

Jayce: i Imagined that to get to either walk away or ignore them or you’re better,

 

James: so you’re, better self, and what was that?

Jayce: I imagined that I was a 10 ft tall super hero and the bully was a one foot tall super villain.

James: So? You imagine yourself as a 10 ft tall superhero and you imagine, the boy has a 1-foot all super villain and you just smashed it and whatever you did that, how that make you feel amazing, so happy did it make you feel like confident that you would be able to handle your situation better in the future?  Awesome.

So guys, that’s a technique in is called “Reframing” and jayce and I use that a lot any time that we have situations that make us feel like we’re, not powerful or that we’re not in control of the situation a lot of times. That will imagine what it would look like if we were in control of our situation and if we did half hour and just imagine that sometimes helps with staying inside in perspective and helps us to go to change the way we act and feel better right. Awesome thanks for doing this with me, man I appreciate it. If you ever want any more tricks or techniques go on over to youtube.Com forward slash jamesppesch and I have a lot of those same techniques in order to help you gain perspective.

Also, Jayce and I actually have a spelling program on youtube, where we teach you how to spell, and he wanted to show you some of the things we use there. We use color coordination to anchor our emotions, and one of my favorite things to do is to teach people how to anchor their emotions with colors. The red is confident and then the blue is to make a still calm, and then the green is by there for me, was to make me feel proud, but jason wanted to. So he feels cool whenever he sees green and that’s his favorite color thank god so much for tuning in and we will catch you very quickly with another. Well, you don’t don’t want to be with me. I really appreciate it and really honestly guys I don’t want to try to recruit my kid all the time. So I need more of you guys to get on camera and not be so scared of it, because if he can do it

Jayce: SO CAN YOU!

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