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NLP PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT REFRAMING PAST LIFE COACH TULSA

Frames of Reference

SCIENCE OF SUCCESS

UNDERSTANDING FRAMES OF REFERENCE & REFRAMING

FOLLOW THE 3 DIFFERENT STORIES

X: A man plays ping pong on a train moving at 40mph. From his perspective, the ball, when struck, moves at a rate of 65mph, but since he is on the train, he does not observe the rate of the train and it is not considered when measuring the speed of the ball within the train car.

Y: A man stands next to the train in a specific spot. From this perspective the ping-pong ball moves at a rate of 65mph (Ball) +40Mph (Train)

Z: A man walks alongside the train at a rate of 5 mph (Moving) and from his perspective, the ping-pong ball moves at a rate of 65 mph + 40mph – 5mph

All of these perspectives and observations are True, Valid, & Correct, and yet they do not agree. When we observe anything as humans we are looking at them from a particular Frame of Reference, and unless you fully embrace the power of knowing which observer you are, you will feel helpless by the perspective you currently are using to analyze the world around you.

FOLLOW THE 3 DIFFERENT PERCEPTIONS

X: The smell of a Christmas tree was the first trigger. Every Christmas, my step, I hope he doesn’t drink too much, dad demanded a REAL tree in that contemporary double-wide trailer I called my summer home. Across the globe it seemed, my Pentecostal father read from the book of Luke to my step mother, step brother, step sister, and cat Patches, and all the while this happened altogether differently through the eyes of everyone of us.

Y: The smell of a Christmas tree was the first trigger. Every Christmas, James would go away to his mom’s house and I knew I had to stay with Dad & Laurie. I hope nobody fights when they start drinking. I hate it when they fight.

Z: The smell of a Christmas tree was the first trigger. Every Christmas it’s the same, I love my family, but there’s never enough. I can’t keep us together, I can’t pay back their hurt or loss, I can’t ever even tell them I cared. I wish all of my kids were here; it would be fulfilling and joyous.

All of these perspectives and observations are True, Valid, & Correct, and yet they do not agree.

REFRAMING

As you consider every event that has ever been significant, you can take a moment and be a different person in the story. Sometimes, you are the winner, sometimes you are the loser, but when you reframe, you gain the control over your emotional attachment to an outcome. If you were Einstein analyzing the same situation, what would you say to yourself? Chances are, you either already accepted and understood how this exercise works, or you are waiting for a step by step take away.

FRAME

We bring a Frame to the table. We already have a story. The person with the ability to hear the story of another gains more insight than the one who  begins with the most wisdom, but doesn’t learn the story of the others.

Humans like to make assertions and generalize others to protect themselves, and although some trends will always ring true, it seems that we do better with knowledge and suffer when we are deprived. In other words, it doesn’t benefit us to remain ignorant of the habits and traditions of others. Study those around you and adopt the Frames of Reference of those around you. As you begin to actually connect to the way another sees the world, the more powerful your ability to Reframe a situation, memory, or experience to see it from a more productive perspective.

 

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