Accepting Your Fate | Amor Fati
SCIENCE OF SUCCESS
ACCEPTING YOUR FATE | AMOR FATI
I’m ALWAYS looking for faster, better, more effective ways to help others connect to the best versions of themselves; as a Life Coach & NLP practitioner, it is in my best interest to find the best ways to help others FAST & EASILY. So, any time I hear about something that might help my clients and those around me, I investigate, validate or invalidate and then communicate whether or not I believe the method to be sound or sketchy.
In the Book “The Secret,” we are encouraged by the author to do some variation of the following formula:
- identify our deepest material and physical desires,
- create the ideal imaginary situation in our mind in vivid or high-definition form, and
- use positive thinking and affirmations
to ensure that the cosmos coordinate to conspire together in order to ensure that you obtain that glorious and fulfilling end result that you are imagining will fulfill you and make you Happy. In fact, no matter how hard you work, how well you plan, or how many affirmations one recites, you may fail and that may produce confusion and anger if you have not taken time to not just ACCEPT our Fate, but to:
Love Your Fate.
In other words, Why not spend time connecting to your deepest material and physical desires while also knowing that you can not control whether or not you actually ever accomplish the goals that you are intentionally pursuing? As you focus on obtaining or achieving Greatness or Success, it is powerful to embrace a Love of Fate and a sense of wonder when considering the variables and outcomes that you can not control and will inevitably be much different than the clear and vivid future that you have been planning in your own mind.
As you embrace and fall in love with the fate that is unraveling all around you, you will be able to identify more positive resources at your disposal and you will be able to ignore the negative emotions which become attached to the constants that seem to be stacked against you. If you begin to be in Love with whatever Fate decides to deliver, you will be able to deal with life’s unfortunate roller coaster. We can not control Failure & Success ultimately, even if we can give ourselves the best possible position to achieve our desired outcomes, but we can control how we feel about our Future, Fate, or Fulfillment.
Love Your Fate | Amor Fati
The phrase is used repeatedly in Nietzsche’s writings and is representative of the general outlook on life that he articulates. . .
We can learn much from studying the life of some of the ancient philosophers and stoics such as Epictetus. Most of my readers who have followed my journey, know that I draw much of my inspiration from the way these ancient stoics thought, even if they lived in a morally deplorable era. For instance, Epictetus, it is believed, was a slave in Greece & was maimed by having his leg broken by a master. It is unknown to this author by what means Epictetus earned his sovereignty and freedom, however, it is historically thought to have been the case. This former slave told of methods by which a person could obtain more internal emotional control. “Amor Fati” is one such method of Stoic Reframing.
What do I mean by inserting this cryptic language pattern “Love of Fate” or phrase into an article meant to empower you to Be Your Own Hero? I mean to empower you to not be affected by your perception of outcomes. In fact, we can’t know whether the first attempt at achieving your goals might not be the very failure that you need in order to be prepared to be successful at another goal further down the road. You don’t know that being burned or turned down on one occasion might lead to avoiding a similar situation in the future; we just can’t know. Therefore, we should all Love the Journey & keep trying to achieve goals with reasonable expectations and highest of hopes.
Love of Fate is about reserving our judgement of a situation, behavior, or circumstance and only responding in the most rational and objective ways to produce the ideal outcomes AND emotional attachments to circumstances.
It is further about allowing ourselves to contemplate how horribly awful it will feel to lose what we value, and then to gain emotional intelligence by following through with the mental exercise of reframing. You will never experience that loss in the exact manner you just rehearsed in your mind, therefore, it is ok to NOT SUFFER over that thought.
In practicing this Stoic mindset, you can mitigate the amount of pain certain ideas and thoughts bring you. If you can reduce emotional discomfort, you can rationally and reasonable manage your own behavior and emotional comfort to greater and greater degrees.
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