5 Principles to Ensure Success in Any Situation
THE SCIENCE OF SUCCESS
DISCLAIMER: **These techniques and methods are extremely POWERFUL and INFLUENTIAL, always assess and take priority in ensuring that the emotional and mental state of the person you are influencing is healthy. However, if you choose to use these methods solely for personal gain people will begin to distance themselves from you; don’t be an idiot and use this power to help others and empower your own life simultaneously to optimize these MIND SHIFT STRATEGIES!
THE 5 PRINCIPLES FOR SUCCESS
We use many different techniques to help our clients achieve their goals. When it comes to success, we incorporate the 5 principles for success.
To achieve our desired outcome, there are 5 SIMPLE STEPS to help us achieve what we have set out to do or to take control of our situation. Each step is quite simple in it’s own right and yet very powerful when combined.
KNOW OUR OUTCOME
To achieve success, you firstly need to really know what it is that you want to achieve or what you want your outcome to be. Many people are totally lost, sailing like ships in thick fog, because they are looking for something, but not quite sure what.
“Should I change my career?”
“Must I stay with the person I am with?”
“What SPECIFIC OUTCOME do you really want?”
Make a list of the specific things you want to achieve when communicating with others. Here is an example of a list we have seen:
- Get more people to buy my product
- Have more customers leave reviews
- Get more help around the house from a spouse
- See more cooperation from children
- Have more productive colleague and employee relations
Be sure you write down what you want and connect with what it will look like when you achieve it; DO NOT write down what you don’t want.
When you know what you want to achieve, you need to take action. Quite simple, yet so many people sit and ponder what they should be doing next. Never actually doing what it takes to get what they want. If you want to change your career, take action. You need to start by looking for another job. If you want to save the relationship you are in, take action. Why is it not going the way you want it to go? Speak to your partner and find out what he or she wants. Sitting around on your bum and not taking action is not going to get you anywhere. That is how people wake up and realize their lives have passed them by.
DEVELOP EMPATHY, EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, & SENSORY ACUITY
This is interesting in the fact that we are sometimes oblivious to what is going on around us. What signals are we getting from other people? Let’s stick with the relationship theme for a second and really simplify it for explaining what we mean by this vague and ambiguous social category.
Let’s say you lean in closer to give your partner a kiss and they turn their head so you can kiss their cheek instead, or they get red in the face, THEN you might assume there is probably something wrong. Rather than assuming that you know why, ask them what the problem is. If it has been going on for some time, there may be some underlying issues and may be why you have this “feeling” that all is not well.
Now, there are an infinite number of ways in which a person may respond; if they jump up to give you a more passionate kiss, then it is a good indication that they want to be with you. So be aware of the subtle signals that people give to show their emotions. There is a real powerful set of techniques in NLP for paying attention to other people. Practitioners look at and study a number of things to calibrate other people’s “signals”. These include among others, skin color, lower lip size, breathing, skin tonus and pupil dilation. This is not an EXACT science and at this time can not be. We gauge success based upon outcomes.
This is another interesting concept. So there you are in the restaurant with your partner and the waiter brings the food. Problem is the food is cold. What do you do?
- You complain to the waiter and make a bit of a scene. Your partner is embarrassed and later you will argue about your behavior. The waiter is already having a bad evening, because the server was sent to another table to sing Happy Birthday while your plate got cold in the window and their tables all went without refills.
- Now, let’s say you quietly and politely called the waiter over to explain the food was cold. He profusely apologizes and explains about the party, but that the manager will be happy to rectify the situation. The manager says you can have the meal on the house because of your politeness. You see, we are social creatures so the way we act determines how the other person reacts and so on and so on. The same situation can have many outcomes depending on our behavior.
Back to the relationship example and shouting back at your partner instead of asking them why they are in a bad mood can lead to more shouting etc. Speaking to them in a soft caring voice could calm them down to explain they had a terrible day at work.
If something doesn’t work, do something different. ß The definition of flexibility
OPERATE FROM A PHYSIOLOGY AND PSYCHOLOGY OF EXCELLENCE
How do you stand, how do you carry yourself? The thoughts that run through your mind and the story you tell yourself about yourself are determining how you behave. Make sure what it is that you want in your head and how you want to carry yourself to achieve your outcome.
Is the way you see yourself now conducive to getting the results you want? When you go to an interview, do you attend wearing ripped jeans, chewing gum, and act in a manner that may offend the potential employer or do you walk tall and speak clearly?
When you are with your partner, do you lie on the couch all day and shout across the room at them to get you some coffee? You don’t see the queen of England swearing in public and chewing gum with her mouth open. Instead, you will see a polite wave and smile. Be sure that you act, behave and carry yourself in a way that is conducive for the end result you wish to achieve. This does not mean being false. It means act in the way that will do you proud. You never know whose watching.
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